Perfection

Perfectionism….what is it? Well the dictionary states perfectionism is the refusal to accept any standard short of perfection.

Perfection is the condition, state, or quality of being free or as free as possible from all flaws or defects.

With that being said do any of these familiar to you?

o Ruminating over mistakes?

o Give yourself or others a hard time when things don’t go according to plan?

o Find it painful to hand over tasks to others for the fear they’ll mess up?

o Have all or nothing thinking?

o Struggle to complete a task in a timely manner?

o Invest a lot of energy into masking your flaws?

o Self-worth depends on your achievement?

If you have answered yes to any of these questions, perfectionism lies in your life to some degree.

Perfectionists tend to have all or nothing thinking…..setting high goals for themselves, trying to go from 0 to 100 in a blink of an eye.

Perfectionists will accept nothing less than perfection.

Perfectionists are more critical of themselves spotting mistakes and imperfections while over seeing their accomplishments.

Perfectionists tend to beat themselves up and wallow in negative feelings when their high expectations go unmet.

Perfectionists are much more afraid to fail.

Perfectionists tend to procrastinate because they worry about doing ______ imperfectly…and this immobilizes them so they don’t do anything at all.

So if perfectionism is something in your life and you want to work on it, what are some options you can try?

1. Set achievable goals for yourself. 1% level ups are great goals to set.

2. Listen for the thoughts you are thinking and ask yourself is that even true? How else can I think about this? Your thoughts will ALWAYS dictate your experience.

3. Set time limits for tasks and make sure to follow them.

4. Avoid procrastination. Concentrate on the task itself instead of the end product.

5. Remember that mistakes are not bad. Celebrate them!!! For when we make a mistake it is an opportunity for us to learn.

6. Practice saying no more often. Saying no allows you to better control your workload and invest in yourself and your skills.

7. Accept yourself just as you are. Remind yourself of your skills and your abilities and talk to yourself as you would talk to your best friend.

8. Compliment yourself daily.

9. Stop over delivering. Have you ever heard of B- work?

10. Remind yourself that 100% is unlikely.

11. Perfectionism is an unattainable goal.

I will close with a quote from Brene Brown:

“You’re imperfect and you’re wired for struggle but you are worthy of love and belonging”.

Hugs,

Kammy